Kim's Kounseling Korner by Kimberly Martin

Dear Kim,

I read HardFitness because of how many good looking women there are! But I have noticed your column and that you give advice to women. But I was wondering if you would perhaps respond a question to a guy? I will be simple as I know you are a busy woman! First of all I don't wanna ask anything dumb but something that I think might even shed a light to some women that read this if this is published. I have been talking to this one lady at my gym but she seems to be totally into this guy that is not at all what she is looking for. She wants someone who wants a family, no drama, and a simple nice life, at least that is what she is told me. This guy she is head over heels for is not a family person and has a lot of personal drama. His attitude is cocky and doesn't make much friends. But she can't seem to look at any other guy and even consider them because she is so attracted or bewitched by him! Is there a way to break the spell and have her look at me and at least consider me for a date? I do think physical attraction is important but at least for me I do go out with different girls until I make a final choice.
Aaron
MI

Dear Aaron,
Hi and thanks for the question...
First of all, there are no dumb questions! Secondly, many girls may SAY they want a 'nice' guy, but what they're really attracted to is the mystery and intrigue of a challenging guy-not necessarily a 'bad' guy, but a man that doesn't put it all on the table, so to speak.
I think your best bet is to let her 'thing' for this guy run it's course and if she doesn't see what a great guy you are, it's her loss and someone else's gain...you deserve to find a person that appreciates all of your wonderful qualities.
Hope this helps and good luck!
Thanks again,
Kim

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