Kim's Kounseling Korner by Kimberly Martin

Dear Kim,
My best female friend always wanted to compete and once she did won her show and did really good at national level. But i have noticed that she is a changed person and not in a good way. I barely speak with her and she hangs around other competitors she used to not get along with. I am just worried that she is gonna get caught up in drama. She pretty much treats me like dirt but she is still my friend. How can i get her to her old self?

Tara
Trenton, NJ

Dear Tara,
Thanks so much for the question. Well first off, I hope you have informed how proud you are of her and support her as best friends should do.
Secondly, she's definitely wrong in neglecting you but you need to let her know how hurt you feel. You probably need to be prepared for the fact that people do grow apart, and she may need her life to go in another direction...that doesn't include you.
Lastly, you can't force her to be the person she was before. As a good friend, you should want her to be happy and succeed, and if it means letting her go, then so be it.
Hope this helps...
Kim

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